How People Fall In Love

What Is Love?

There are many different theories as to what love is, but there is no definitive answer. Here is a fantastic overview of love according to 5 writers based on their knowledge in their respective fields.  Science, psychotherapy, philosophy, literature, and religion.

All their descriptions about love are correct, however instead of separating them by field, they should be combined to create a more complex description of love. Because that’s exactly what love is. Complex, irrational, illogical and chemically addictive. As Jim Al-Khalili states, love can be described as neurochemical effect in the body. It can be categorised in to different types, which are well explained by Philippa Perry and it is the bittersweet paradox Catherine Wybourne describes it to be.

Perhaps the most profound kind of love is the love for a partner in an intimate relationship, be it long term or otherwise. This is the kind I will be focusing on today. This love is the most intense love people face and encompasses many feelings and emotions that are deep, rarely felt and often hard to process.

To me, love is an umbrella term, under which deep feelings, emotions and attachment for someone based on their individual differences lay.

I don’t believe it’s possible to love two separate sexual partners the same way, because you fall in love with their individual qualities and express it to them in a unique way. This explains why it’s hard to compare love for one person to another, and why people never find the feelings of love they are expecting to feel based on previous relationships with someone different.

So now that we have an idea of what love is, what makes us fall in love?

Initial Attraction

I do believe in love at first site, and if it is in fact a real thing, it’s an extremely rare occurrence and often confused with lust at first site. They’re both responsible for strong emotions, which is where the confusion lies.

The difference being that love at first sight encompasses the persons vibe, aura and energy as well as their physical appearance; If you’ve ever seen someone that you can’t look away from, not because you want to sleep with them, but because you are drawn to them and see them as the only face in a crowd, then you know what I’m talking about. It’s a strange feeling, and if you’ve been fortunate enough to share eye contact, then you know how real it can feel.

Lust at first sight only encompasses physical appearance. Although it is still a strong feeling, it’s not as deep, and your mind turns to sex before thinking about what they’re like as a person. Don’t get me wrong, lust at first sight can turn in to love, but only after getting to know the person on a deeper level and appreciating their individual differences, if it gets to that. If you’ve shared eye contact in this situation, you’ll know it’s a different feeling to love at first sight.

Even though many people say it’s shallow to judge someone on physical appearance when looking for a partner, initial physical attraction is important for any relationship. They don’t have to be ‘the perfect 10’, but they have to be attractive to you, otherwise a sustained sexual relationship is almost impossible. In saying that, a persons personality can both take away from, and increase a persons physical attractiveness.

A Deeper Attraction

Have you ever met someone, started a conversation and by the end of the conversation you were finishing each others sentences? That’s how you know you’re on the same wavelength.

The deepest attractions occur when two people are on the same wavelength, can be themselves around each other and fully appreciate each others individual differences. This is what builds the foundation for a strong, passionate relationship, and these feelings for each other can be expressed sexually and otherwise.

It is a huge struggle trying to build attraction with someone that isn’t on your wavelength. For example, many people don’t get my jokes as I have a towel dry sense of humor. Those that do get my jokes share my sense of humor and make similar jokes, and the conversations are more natural, deep, fun and interesting.

I’m not saying it’s impossible to have a relationship with someone that doesn’t get my humor, but it is harder to build attraction when the conversation isn’t coming as naturally as you’d expect.

The Golden Rule

When many people ask for advice on how to attract a partner, the main advice they get is “just be yourself”. This is fantastic advice, but many people don’t fully understand what it is about them that makes them unique and attractive, and they change slightly to be ‘cooler’ or because they think that the person they’re trying to attract is looking for certain traits. It’s all done with good intentions, but it isn’t sincere and stems from low self-confidence and having not self-actualized yet.

If you’re a decent person with good morals, it’s a fact that you are at your most attractive when you are being yourself, because you are confident with who you are and are able to portray who you are to the world around you.

On the other hand, if the façade you put on fooled the person you attracted, it may work in the short term, but the true colors of a person will always come out eventually and destroy any relationships your façade has created. Starting a relationship with a façade will almost never lead to a sustained, stable relationship.

So to be emotionally able to fall in love, you must first be comfortable with yourself. You don’t have to be vain or cocky, you just have to know who you are, what your individual differences are, why they make you the unique and you have to embrace them.

If you fall in love with someone because they make you feel special, and not because of their unique qualities then you are setting your relationship up to fail.

It isn’t a mutual feeling, rather one person loves the other person for making them feel safe and secure, instead of loving them for who they are. This is the true reason as to why you must love yourself, before you can love someone else.

Once you love yourself in a modest way, your self-confidence skyrockets and you can be yourself in every situation. You don’t hold back on saying things because you are confident in your opinion and position in the conversation, and you don’t let people walk all over you. You know who you are and aren’t afraid of people seeing you in a bad light if they choose to as you know you can’t please everyone.  As your confidence level increases, your worries and insecurities decrease, and as everyone knows, confidence is attractive. More traits of confident people are covered in this article by Philip Pape.

Now That You’re Emotionally Ready

So now that you are comfortable with yourself, and know who you are, you can start conveying this to other people. When you approach someone with confidence and convey your ideal self to them, will they be attracted to you? Most of the time you might not even have a 3 sentence conversation. That’s the funny thing about people. They may be in a different position emotionally to you, it could be a timing thing, they may be in a relationship, they could be an asshole or they just aren’t interested.

This is where your confidence is truly tested. Rejection can hurt, especially if you aren’t used to it and are trying to build confidence. It may feel like it knocks you back to the start of our journey, but eventually you become indifferent to it. I’ll go as far to say that you can learn to have fun with it. Here is a prime example of a truly confident person handling rejection. I know it’s a movie, but he has fun with it rather than let it get to him. He is confident in himself and doesn’t let the rejection doesn’t phase him. You also don’t need to look like Ryan Gosling to have that confidence.

Looking For A Partner

You’ve been yourself for what seems like a long time now, and you still haven’t met anyone. That’s the funny thing about love. Months or years may pass before you meet someone that you click with on all the necessary levels. Now what do you do? You continue to be yourself. Any relationship worth being in will be with those who are attracted to you because of who you are. Remember, you don’t need to change like you thought you did in the past. It is better to be alone than in a relationship and not yourself.

The things that makes you fall in love with someone are their individual differences. On a physical level it could be anything from their smile, facial expressions, freckles, body language or style. On a deeper level, the people you are most attracted to are the ones that also know who they are and what they have to offer to the world. Everyone is unique and offers different things. Being able to see what makes people unique and acknowledging, respecting and appreciating them for their differences is key for finding a life partner and having a successful relationship.

Found a Partner, Now What?

One of the hardest things for people is to accept that someone sees something special in you. It’s very easy for people to give compliments, but many people find it difficult to receive them. Being loved is the greatest compliment at all, and it can be a lot to take in, especially when you respect and love the person who loves you.

If you are confident and self-actualized before entering the relationship, you won’t have a problem taking compliments and won’t question if your partner is just saying something nice, rather you will be honored that someone you share these feelings for about appreciates you for being you.

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Sex and Love

How My View Changed Over Time

Remember the one or two guys in high school that seemed to get all the girls. I wasn’t one of them. I was always a heart on my sleeve kind of guy and had a crush on a girl in high school that lasted a few years. I didn’t date other girls even if they were interested because if it wasn’t going to last I didn’t see the point. Because of this I never had a high school romance and was a late bloomer when it came to sex, love and relationships. At a young age I decided I was going to wait till I found the right person to lose my virginity to.

My first real ‘make out session’ was when I was 17, with a beautiful girl I met on schoolies. We spent around 4 days together, in a trip that was my first week away from home. After the first day I started feeling a connection. The kind you see in the movies when you were a kid but don’t understand till it happens to you.

When we started seeing each other a couple of years after our first meeting, we had a conversation about why we didn’t sleep together when we were younger. I told her I’d never been in that position before and had no idea what to do.  It was the truth; I was petrified and ended up missing an opportunity for something I’d been waiting for. Someone special to share my first time with.

When I turned 18 I started clubbing regularly. That first year, I failed miserably at attracting anyone from fairer sex and my self-worth was low.  Doing what most other people in my position did, I started researching how to approach woman. The tips helped with meaningless hook-ups which I was extremely pleased with.  I went from a year of not hooking up with anyone, to hooking up with 2-3 girls a night. I had the act down pat, but it was just that. An act. It was a version of myself that didn’t convey my true personality, but it seemed to work. Even though my virginity stayed intact, I was still extremely satisfied that I was getting the attention I’d always wanted and felt like I was making up for lost time.

After a year of random hook-ups, I hit the ripe old age of 20. I decided enough was enough and lost my virginity to a girl I met at a club the week prior. I’d grown sick of being the only virgin in my group and felt like I was falling behind in life. I later realised it wasn’t a race, and am still torn as to whether or not I regret my decision. I learnt a valuable lesson, but didn’t share my first time with someone special. Throughout this time, I was still haunted about the fact I didn’t make a move on the girl from schoolies. I always thought of her as ‘the one that got away’.

A couple of months after my birthday, I got a text from my friend telling me ‘the one that got away’ was single again. That text changed my life. I contacted her and we organised a time to catch up. We walked and talked for what seemed like no time at all, but when we finally looked at the clock we discovered it was midnight. The connection I remembered we had was still there and the conversation, comfortability with each other and way the time passed proved it.  I knew I had to see her again.

A few hard months of sorting out our feelings, figuring out what we meant to each other and what we wanted to mean to each other passed.  During those months, I felt many emotions for the first time and didn’t understand how to interpret them or what the meant. After an intense few months we decided to take our relationship to the next level and commit to each other. I was in my first committed relationship.  The relationship was incredible, passionate and loving, but could go from perfect to heartbreaking quickly. First love. It’s a funny thing.

Fast forward close to 2 years and we couldn’t resolve our issues. Being my first relationship, I hadn’t dealt with a break up before. Early on I felt relief because our relationship got toxic, but then the feelings of emptiness and sadness crept in I had a really tough time.

We never fell out of love, and kept in touch for a few months which made it harder. After those first few months we decided to cut contact, at least for the short term.

It took me about 5 months to feel ready to start seeing other people. When the time came, I remember going out with the aim to find a girl and take her home. I did meet someone that night, but we only exchanged numbers and I slept alone. Over the next 6 months, this girl and I grew extremely close and had an unofficial relationship.

There was a definite connection but I couldn’t understand the concept of feeling the feelings I had for my ex, so it never progressed further. We were helped each other through a hard time in our lives, and occasionally slept together, but most of our time was spent walking, talking and enjoying each other’s company. We remained friends even after the intimacy stopped, because why throw away a good friendship! They’re hard to find.

After not meeting anyone in months, I cracked and downloaded tinder (that “hook up” app). I had the attitude that I was going to sleep with lots of people and have some wild experiences and enjoy being young, as so many older men told me to do prior to my first relationship. It was a juvenile way to try and deal with my problems and as I soon found out, didn’t provide any satisfaction.

After some time on tinder, I went from no success to enough success to know that sleeping with people without a connection wasn’t for me. The defining moment was when I was driving home feeling disgusted with myself. I felt empty and sad and was missing the companionship and closeness that sex used to symbolise. The idea of sex and intimate contact with people, and what it represents changed for me after experiencing first love.

The act that had previously worked for me was now not one I could use. I’d been loved for my uniqueness, and loved someone for theirs. Every time I’d find myself in a situation where a one night, purely physical relationship could have been an option, I found myself not allowing it to lead there.

I was still going to bars trying to meet people, but with the intention of finding someone that I could have an intelligent, deep conversation with and connect with, and seeing where it went from there. After getting countless phone numbers, only a handful converted in to dates, only 2 of which I was interested in seeing again. They turned out not to share my enthusiasm, but I was adamant that I would not revert back to sleeping with someone I didn’t have a connection with.

My outlook on intimacy and sex changed over the past couple of years, and that change goes like this. Prior to my first love, it was enjoyable to sleep with random people. The physical contact was enough to satisfy my ego and physical needs. During the relationship it was a way of expressing my love and trust to my girlfriend; something special we shared together. After the relationship, I tried to revert back to thinking how I did prior to my relationship. All that did was lower my self-worth and I realised that wasn’t the answer either.

Fast forward 6 months and here I am today. First love, and the ending end of that relationship have changed how I see intimacy, and who I can be intimate with. It showed me how special and precious it is, and that every shared moment with someone you have a connection with should be cherished. Because of this, I’ve stopped sleeping with people for physical pleasure and have reserved intimacy for when there is a person is right. The waiting game can get lonely, but I see myself in a much better light for not compromising my beliefs.  It also makes it that much more magical when someone to share it with comes in to your life.

It’s been just over a year and half since the end of my first relationship. I now see my relationship with my ex as a memory, and even though I’ll always have spot for her in my life and heart and can see the things about her that I fell in love with, I have learned to just let it be. This was an important step for me to take, as now I have a spot in my life for my possible next partner.

I recently had an extremely deep connection with an incredible woman I met at a festival. We spent a lot of time together in a short period of time, but never slept together; however, we laid passionately intertwined while we slept.  For me, this was more fulfilling than having meaningless sex with an infinite number people.

This is something I never thought I’d think when I was younger, but I’m glad I do. I didn’t try and push for more because I knew she was leaving and it would have made it that much harder to say goodbye. Even though we didn’t sleep together, I like to think that the possibility it could have is enough, and if we see each other in the future, it would be worth the wait. If not, it just confirmed the fact that intimacy, whether it’s cuddling or a non-sexual expression of love, is so much more satisfying than meaningless sex.

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Adrenal/Chronic Fatigue – My Recovery Story

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Disclaimer

I am not affiliated with any companies or manufacturers of supplements. Through my research I found supplements, effects of the supplements and treatment types that logically fixed the problems outlined in this article. 

1) Each person has their own story of how they came to have the effects of adrenal fatigue. Because of this, many people believe there is no one size fits all ‘cure’, and that everyone’s road to recovery is unique, however this isn’t proven. I took a holistic approach to recovery, logically covering all bases. The things I outline in this post significantly improved my health, and I would except they would do the same for yours, but I cannot make any guarantees.

2) Many people say that adrenal fatigue is part of chronic fatigue, or that it can lead to it. This study indicates that the name of chronic fatigue could be shifting to adrenal fatigue. I personally feel they are interchangeable. Regardless, both are similar in terms of symptoms and possible causes and thus should have similar ‘cures’.

About Adrenal Fatigue

What is Adrenal Fatigue?

Adrenal fatigue syndrome is a debilitating illness that can cause a persons quality of life to decrease significantly. Many people may be living with early stages of adrenal fatigue without knowing it. If left unchecked, a sudden onset of many symptoms may arise, leaving the person confused as to what happened. Doctors may mistake it for a viral infection, however if it is adrenal fatigue the symptoms will linger for months or years. At this stage, the persons case would be defined as moderate to severe.

Here are a list of primary and secondary symptoms.

If you are unsure as to the specifics of adrenal fatigue, here is a fantastic overview.

A number of tests to help diagnose adrenal fatigue are found here. (I failed the iris contraction test which is how I diagnosed myself).

How do you get adrenal fatigue?

My research leads me to believe the causes of adrenal fatigue are; a high amount of emotional and/or physical stress including vigorous physical exercise and viral infections coupled with a poor diet and poor quality of sleep. Over an extended period of these things cause the adrenal glands to become hyperactive.

The adrenal glands can’t sustain the high output for a long period of time and disruption of hormones produced by the adrenal glands, specifically cortisol causes some physical symptoms and starts a negative chain reaction in the body. This page shows the role of cortisol in the body and logically explains the relation of cortisol to the symptoms.

Other physiological conditions in patients with adrenal fatigue

According to this study, leaky gut syndrome is prevalent in a significant number of patients. Leaky gut syndrome can cause IBS, swollen lymph nodes and reduces the efficacy of the digestive system. Leaky gut is linked to candida overgrowth and both of these conditions have their own harmful effects on the body.

Thyroid function can also be affected and cause its own specific problems. A list of problems caused by the thyroid can be found here.

My Story

The Discovery

I’d been to the doctor around 6 times in 4 months. My physical symptoms were constant, fairly painful lymph nodes in my neck and under my arms (it is unknown how stress can cause this, but it is known that it can), a slightly swollen left tonsil, extreme fatigue, a sore throat (only really painful twice at night), difficulty swallowing and difficulty sleeping. I was also extremely anxious and had mild depression.

I noticed all these symptoms got significantly worse for a week or more after any vigorous exercise or  stressful situation. Along with this, I had a constant general pain in my muscles and joints, possibly fibromyalgia. Doctors kept telling me it was a viral infection.

I finally had blood tests that ruled out STI’s, common allergies and showed normal white and red blood cell counts. They did reveal that I’d had glandular fever in the past, something I wasn’t aware of as I didn’t have the traditional glandular fever experience.

During these few months, my anxiety began spiraling out of control. I kept trying to push through the fatigue when my body was saying no and ended up a nervous wreck. Some days I struggled to get out of bed because and I couldn’t see an end. Most of the time I couldn’t go out and socialize because the fatigue was so bad and I began to feel lonely.

By this time, I’d taken to google and thought I had chronic fatigue. I was finally referred someone who confirmed my suspicion and was officially diagnosed with post-viral fatigue/chronic fatigue syndrome. He then prescribed me with anti-depressants to treat it. I was determined to treat the cause of the problem, rather than try and keep some symptoms at bay using the anti-depressants and started looking for natural solutions.

I went back to google and couldn’t find any cures for chronic fatigue, and due to the similarities with adrenal fatigue, I began researching that. Adrenal fatigue and chronic fatigue both explained my symptoms, and as I stated earlier I think they have the same cause. The only difference is adrenal fatigue had more comprehensive information as to what it is, what can cause it and what it does to the body. It’s interesting to note that western medicine doesn’t have an official cause of adrenal fatigue/chronic fatigue, and many practitioners still don’t recognize it as a real condition.

How I approached treatment

I started reading peoples success storied on forums read how they were treating themselves. There was lots of helpful information, and the hope of recovery boosted my mood and subsequently reduced some symptoms. This allowed me to see that stress was having a major impact on my health. 

I began to feel like I could overcome this. I started researching what foods, supplements and treatments are used to treat help restore adrenal function, fix leaky gut syndrome, boost the immune system, kill viral infections and remove candida, as well as reduce stress.

The things I attribute my recovery to are; Stress reduction techniques, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), listening to my body, a healthy diet, use of specific supplements and Chiropractic Treatment.

My Recovery Plan

Stress

Recognizing Stress

The first step was recognizing what my stressors were. At the time, I was dealing with a breakup, hadn’t had a relaxing holiday in years, was as studying full time and working part time at a job where I had all the time to think about things and feed my anxiety.

All I could see was what was wrong with the world, and I wasn’t letting myself accept it. There had been changes with my Grandma’s health, one passing away, the other debilitated by dimensia. All this combined took its toll. Every little thing triggered an anxiety attack, and stress on my adrenal glands. It got the point where customers putting their bank card in the machine the wrong way triggered the fight/flight response.

Even though I was only working part time, my job was a major stressor. I had some time off and felt significantly better, only to return to work to feel worse again, so I decided to quit. Just being able to see the end improved my emotional state.

To start my recovery, I had to learn to live with what I couldn’t change and change what I could. knew I had to change how I perceived external information. I knew I was burnt out and going to have to make sacrifices, at least in the short term. The first step in my recovery was accepting I couldn’t push it. I had to take it easy.

One major thing that stops people’s recovery is using the fatigue as an excuse. This is not a mindset you can have if you want to beat it.

Reducing Stress

I started doing relaxing, yoga 5+ times a week after which I used Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)/Mindfulness to reprogram my brain to be the best version of myself. The best version of myself didn’t include letting small things stress me, or having adrenal fatigue, and the CBT helped me overcome these things. This reduced the constant stress on my adrenal glands, which allowed the recovery to start.

I’ve since adopted the motto “the time is now” and have found it has increased my ability to adapt and reduces my stress about problems that hadn’t arisen yet. Being out in nature, or going on walks with a friend helped a lot too, even if they started as short walks.

If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present – Lao Tzu

Whenever I felt an anxiety attack coming on, I would take 5 deep, focused breaths and laugh at how silly I was getting stressed over something small.

Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM)

Acupuncture

Unlike western medicine, TCM recognizes that symptoms of adrenal fatigue are caused by imbalances in the body, and aims to fix these imbalances by stimulating Qi. Many people may be skeptical about acupuncture, as it isn’t what they’re used to, but I assure you a good acupuncturist can be a life changer.

My acupuncturist used navel acupuncture, which is a relatively new acupuncture technique. It yields superior results over traditional acupuncture, although many people have success through traditional acupuncture too. I was told to only eat foods that had a cooling effect on the body such as lemon and orange, and stay away from foods like ginger and garlic, which have a heating affect. Here is a list of foods and their effects on the body according to TCM.

My diagnosis according to TCM

My acupuncturist told me I had a kidney deficiency that was causing fatigue. After a few treatments, my energy levels improved drastically. He also told me I had a spleen deficiency and thyroid problems. I am still receiving treatments to fix other minor problems, but after almost religious treatment for around 2 months, my health has increased by more than 90%.

Note: You may receive a different diagnosis and different instructions. Recovery times will vary based on how long you have been dealing with the symptoms and how often you get treatment.

Listening to your body

To reduce physical stress, I suspended my gym membership. I ate when I needed too, and gave into my cravings for red meat, something I hadn’t eaten in years. The only cravings I didn’t give in to were processed sugar/caffeine cravings, as these can stress the adrenal glands.

Instead I ate fruits when I felt like sugar. I also made sure I moved around after sitting for too long. If I was too tired to go out, I would stay in and know my limitations. All this could get frustrating at times, but short term frustration for a better quality of a life in the long run is worth the trade-off.

Supplements and diet

Colostrum – I discovered this study on colostrum and its ability to cure leaky gut. This study shows how it can help with candida overgrowth. Taking probiotics further helps improve digestion and absorption and helps with IBS. This provides a healthy environment for supplements and a high quality diet to be absorbed and ensures maximum benefits. It also helps reduce the strain on the immune system by stopping unwanted things leaking through the gut into the bloody, triggering an immune response. You can purchase colostrum here.

Magnesium and KSM-66 – I started taking magnesium powder with ksm-66, an extract proven to reduce stress and anxiety. The magnesium also helps with muscle pain and recovery. Here is the powder I used.

TryptophanTryptophan is an amino acid that is a precursor to serotonin and melatonin. The tryptophan helped increase my mood and improve my sleep. I took this on an empty stomach with a B-vitamin complex to help the tryptophan absorb. Care must be taken when taking tryptophan with prescription medication that affects serotonin. You can purchase tryptophan here.

Coconut Oil – I used coconut oil while cooking, started drinking coconut water and consuming 3 tablespoons of coconut oil a day for its anti-viral, anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties as well as other positive benefits found here. Consuming high quantities of coconut oil at a time, or on an empty stomach can result in nausea. It may be best to spread your 3 table spoons throughout the day. I purchased my raw, unrefined coconut oil from ALDI, as it was the cheapest option, but it is available at most health food shops.

WPI protein shake – Provides the body with all the amino acids (including tryptophan) to give my body the building blocks to repair any damage. I used this protein, however I would have used this protein if it was available.

Vitamin D – I started spending more time out in the sun instead of taking supplements, although supplements are a good idea. Vitamin D helps the body absorb calcium and reduces fatigue.

Vitamin C /immune system booster – To help keep your immune system strong during recovery.

Marijuana – Marijuana helps reduce the time it takes to fall asleep as well keeping the body in stages 3 and 4 of sleep. This study shows the effects of marijuana on sleep. This is the time the body does it’s healing and recovering. It does this by stopping the brain entering REM sleep, which means you most likely won’t have dreams. Marijuana helped reduce muscle pain and alleviated some of my fatigue. I vaporized the marijuana as it the one of the least harmful ways to take it. If you choose to use this, check if it is legal in your state and be aware of the possible associated risks.

General dietary guidelines – I cut out all caffeine, processed sugar and processed foods and increased my fruit (especially lemon and orange), verge and healthy fat intake. In a more general sense I at foods high in anti-oxidants, vitamins (especially B and C), minerals and iron. If possible consider switching to organic food to reduce the amount of toxins, such as pesticides entering  your body.

Chiropractic Treatment

The type of chiropractic treatment my chiropractor used was the Gonstead approach. Chiropractors aim to align the spine and believe that many problems can be prevented by correct spinal alignment. If the spine is not aligned correctly, the nervous system doesn’t function as it should and a variety of health problems may arise. This chart shows the relationship between the spine and areas of the body.

I used the chiropractor towards the end of my recovery and felt instant relief. After a few treatments, it took me from feeling 90% myself to back to who I remember I was. If I could have a do over, I would definitely start chiropractic treatment sooner.

If you run your fingers down each vertebrae with a bit of pressure and feel a tender spot, it’s a sign that your spine needs adjusting.  This

My daily food/supplement routine

30 mins before breakfast – 1 shake with 2-4 spoons of colostrum powder, 1 scoop of magnesium powder with ksm-66, a scoop of cacao powder. 1 tryptophan tablet, 1 Vitamin B complex and 1 Spirulina tablet.

Breakfast – eggs w/ avocado and ham on whole meal toast or organic muesli with almonds, cacao powder, black chia seeds and goji berries. To drink, a honey and lemon tea, using the whole lemon.

Lunch – A healthy meal and 3 table spoons of coconut oil.

Afternoon tea – A WPI protein shake with 2-4 spoons of colostrum powder, 1 scoop of magnesium powder with ksm-66, a scoop of cacao powder and a tryptophan tablet. Can eat some berries or kiwi fruit.

Dinner – A healthy meal, a glass of 100% pure orange juice.

Before bed – up to 1.5mg of tryptophan or a sleep aid supplement, and marijuana.

My healthy meals included salmon, fresh salads, fresh wraps with leafy greens and tuna, sandwiches, brown rice, chicken, different types of lean red meat, whole meal breads, walnuts and almonds.

Where am I at now?

Currently I am living a next to normal life. I have grown a lot as a person because of this experience, and am continuing to eat healthy, supplement, partake in yoga and CBT and keep up with acupuncture treatments (which can help prevent lots of illnesses). I have been able to go to a 4-day music festival and my recovery was no longer than that of someone not affected by adrenal fatigue. I have started exercise again but haven’t been pushing as hard as I used to, yet.

Conclusion

Medical conditions including adrenal fatigue all have a cause, even if it’s not recognized by western medicine. Reducing stress, supplementing and dieting, acupuncture and chiropractic treatments and listening to my body were all equally important, as they all worked together to help improve my health. I couldn’t tell you what made the most difference because I started them all at the same time (except chiropractic), as I didn’t want to prolong the symptoms to experiment with what worked.

It is fairly costly to do all the things in this article, but what is money if you don’t have the health to enjoy what it can buy. It’s important to keep in mind that trying to continue to lead a normal life with this condition can make it worse and prolong recovery. Some people that push are eventually forced to reduce their work hours or quit all together and have a very poor quality of life.

I hope this information gives hope to those out there that can’t see an end to their poor health, and provides somewhere for those who want to improve their health a place to start. Good luck with your recovery!